Yesterday, the NY Post and Daily News featured stories about NYC's First Lady Chirlane McCray on their front pages, focusing on her remarks to New York magazine, in which she discussed her struggle to balance a career and motherhood. Their crass repackaging of the interview now has Mayor Bill de Blasio demanding apologies from both tabloids, for his wife and other NYC moms.
McCray had told New York about the birth of their first child, explaining, "I was 40 years old. I had a life. Especially with Chiara—will we feel guilt forever more? Of course, yes. But the truth is, I could not spend every day with her. I didn’t want to do that. I looked for all kinds of reason not to do it. I love her. I have thousands of photos of her—every 1-month birthday, 2-month birthday. But I’ve been working since I was 14, and that part of me is me. It took a long time for me to get into ‘I’m taking care of kids,’ and what that means." Which the Daily News headlined, "Didn't want to be a mom" and the Post distorted into "I Was A Bad Mom!" for its cover.
I don't think acknowledging struggles and ambivalence about new parenthood = "I WAS A BAD MOM" pic.twitter.com/vDhGbKp2E6
— Carrie Melago (@carriemelago) May 19, 2014
The Daily News touches upon other points from the interview, but the Post's coverage proceeds straight to the bottom: "In a startlingly frank confession, Mayor Bill de Blasio’s wife says she was unable to embrace motherhood and initially neglected Chiara, who last year dropped the bombshell that she was in treatment for abusing booze and pot... The disclosure — bound to horrify most moms — shatters the carefully crafted image of de Blasio’s close-knit family, which helped vault him into office."
— Jen Chung (@jenchung) May 19, 2014
The NY Times notes that de Blasio "decided midday on Monday that he wanted to address the headlines, and ordered his aides to organize a question-and-answer session with reporters." He said, "It suggests a tremendous misunderstanding of what it means to be a parent, what it means to be a mother... A lot of hardworking women in this city are offended. I think both The Post and The Daily News owe Chirlane an apology. I think they owe all of us an apology." It also suggests that the top editors at the Post and the Daily News have no clue what it takes to be a parent!
As Brooklyn Based's Nicole Davis wrote, McCray's remarks are "honest. Show me one mom who can spend every day with her child and not go insane. I don’t know one. Little kids will drive you bonkers. I just got back from four days away from my kids and it was heaven. I haven’t had a better trip in I don’t know when, and I love my little buggers to death."