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With the release of the book, The Sexual Organization of the City, which claims to refute the myth that cities are better for singles to meet other people, the Post's music writer, Mary Huhn, employs the main author, Edward Laumann, in anaylzing her New York dating schema. After looking at her diary of social events, he decrees, "Your scene seems to be fairly typical: urban-dwelling, 20-something, professional singles with a good income." God, we are a dime a dozen, aren't we? Laumann also confirms Huhn's hypothesis that hanging with the gang can prevent new connections: "If your crowd is of long standing and very comfortable to you, it reduces the incentive to look for new ties." That's true; speaking from our experience, when you and your friends are annoying, self-concerned bastards/bitches, you'll only end up cranky, or, at best, dating variations on that theme.

Smoking at A60; Photo - NY Post

The book basically says that since people run in the same cicles both socially and with their work and neighbor activities (going to the same clubs, restaurants, etc.), they are limiting themselves in meeting new people and doing new things. Laumann also breaks New York into two kinds of relationship-making areas, "transactional" and "relational." Transactional neighborhoods are the ones where all the singles seem to be hanging out, the ones with the good bars, good cheap restaurants, good music scenes, which in turns means it's a place for "short-term, noncommittal relationships." Hello, East Village, Lower East Side, and Williamsburg, or as Huhn says, "almost everything south of 14th Street." On the flipside, staid places overrun with strollers, like the Upper West Side, Upper East Side, Carroll Gardens, and Park Slope are "relational," where smug marrieds help their single friends find dates.

Gothamist is tempted to buy the book, but unfortunately, the book is based on observations made in Chicago, a.k.a., "America's biggest small town." Since we don't think Laumann and his team are hitting NYC anytime soon, tell Gothamist what your neighborhood has done (or hasn't done) for your dating life. We'll go first: While half of Gothamist lives on the Upper West Side, the fact that there were no settled friends in the neighborhood meant we were trolling downtown, in apparently the transactional part of town, for dates. The other half of Gothamist manages to be in a steady, relational relationship south of 14th Street.