How do you approach a stranger on a subway that you’re making eye contact with -- without seeming like a total freak? You know what I mean ... when you lock eyes with a stranger and you think there's some vibe or chemistry... then they walk off and you will never see them again. How can one grab hold of fate without coming across as a total stalker or scary person, which I’m not!
Ah, subway love. Ask Gothamist must admit that we try to avoid all human contact on the subway, burying our nose in a book and covering our ears with headphones. But apparently love connections can be made on the subway. Back in August, the F train was declared the love train (although the only love we’ve ever experienced on the F is the love of someone getting off at Jay st. so we can get a seat).
So what do you do when you see a hottie on your morning commute? Lots of people post a Missed Connection on Craigslist. However, this will only work if your love interest reads the Cragislist ‘Missed Connections’ section. We think that you will have to judge each case individually. If the person you’re scoping out is smiling at you and seems to be really giving you the green light, go for it. What do you have to lose? Ask a non-threatening question, like, “Excuse me, do you know if I can transfer to the A train at 14th street?” or ask a question about something the person is wearing or doing: “I’m sorry to bother you, but I noticed the book you’re reading. I was thinking of buying it and I wanted to know if you like it” or “Do you mind if I ask you where you got your hat? I’m looking for a birthday present for my sister and I think she’d love one just like that.” If the person just gives you a one-word answer, you shall pass like trains in the station, never to meet again. But if your love interest gets chatty with you, you might as well try to get the digits before standing clear of the closing doors.