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Is Social Networking Good or Bad For Social Skills?

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Parents are divided over whether social media outlets like Twitter and Facebook may be hindering their kids' abilities to have deep, meaningful relationships with friends. A new study shows that half of American teenagers send 50 or more text messages a day and that one third send more than 100 a day. Two thirds said they were more likely to use their cell phones to text than to call, and only 33% say they talk to their friends on a daily basis. Now called "digital natives," the kids growing up with the internet and cell phones may have a hard time with things like empathy and social cues. UCLA psychiatry professor Gary Small told the Times, “Even though young digital natives are very good with the tech skills, they are weak with the face-to-face human contact skills."

However, some parents believe the internet is helping their otherwise socially awkward teens learn to interact with others. One father said Facebook was helping his introverted son open up. “For Evan, the No. 1 reason is it’s helping him come out of his shell and develop social skills that he wasn’t learning because he’s so shy. I couldn’t just push him out of the house and say ‘Find someone." Teenagers also say that it helps them stay more involved than ever. Manhattan 15-year-old Hannah Kliot, who has 1,150 Facebook friends, said she usually texts, but will follow up with a real conversation if the topic is serious. “I definitely have conversations but I think the new form of actually talking to someone is video chat because you’re actually seeing them,” she said. "I’ve definitely done phone calls at one time or another but it is considered, maybe, old school." Or, you know, you could actually see them face to face. But that might be way too old school.



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  • Jerry Brower

    Very
    good points brought out in your article.  We do have a tendency to hide
    behind our computer screens and lose sight of the benefits of face to
    face networking.  I think those skills should be kept up also in order
    to achieve a good healthy balance in your networking regimen.  To keep
    in touch with the real world once in a while would probably be a pretty
    good idea.  Some other good insight and advice on networking can be
    found for free at:
    http://relationshipcapital.co/...

  • chariboy

    Yep this is very interesting and i want tell you everyone people participate in social works because it's humanity and in the first place of nowadays it's normally behavior in the most guys so he should be do this.

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  • TrippinJoJo

    Please see the movie, IDIOCRACY. That would be our future if future generations lose their social abilities.

  • Mr. Shankly

    Yeah, but they won't lose their electrolytes.

  • Jason

    I think the most serious problem faces those in early in their social development, as opposed to anyone over 15 or so.

    There's no point in outlining what I've already written here: Social Problems of Social Media

  • The telephone is ruining social interaction! People will never talk to each other face to face AGAIN! Oh wait the US Postal Service is ruining everything-- people will never talk to each other AGAIN! Oh wait the invention of the written word, that is ruining everything-- people will never talk to each other again! Oh wait language is ruining everything-- people will never grunt & groom each other again! Oh wait this is a dumb moral panic caused by people who have a dim & false view of their salad days. The past was not halcyon, clear your maudlin nostalgia. Kids are the same today as they ever were, except they don't loose as many fingers in the factory (in America).

    CHILL OUT PEOPLE.

  • vikii wong

    "the kids growing up with the internet and cell phones may have a hard time with things like empathy and social cues."

    i find adults also lack empathy and social cues too. we're all doomed.

  • laisla

    This would be a logic fail.

  • vikii wong

    Well, it's something I've noticed.

  • Guest

    it has nothing to do with person-to-person social skills. it's wonderfully something new, altogether.

  • inoyourider

    The biggest problem with kids is usually the parents.

    Currently, parents are way too permissive and tolerate way more shit than any parents I remember when I was growing up.

  • Snoopy

    "...are weak with the face-to-face human contact skills."

    Who you calling weak? If you ever say that in my face I'm going to punch you out.

  • laisla

    Or just trash him all over the internet.

  • nicemarmot

    I feel like more of the issues with kids communicating now has more to do with parents being afraid and not letting their kids run amok like they used to. Maybe it's just where I grew up, but I'm pretty sure the majority of my social skills were formed learning to get along with the large number of kids in my neighborhood, older, younger and my own age. Obviously there are places where that just isn't possible. But even the neighborhood where I grew up, if you go back to visit, you don't see kids running around anymore. They're all inside. How are they going to learn anything if they're never allowed to do anything on their own? I'm only in my late 20s - it's not like it's been that long since I was a kid myself. From the age of 5 or so I was pretty much allowed free run of my neighborhood, so long as I always told my parents where I was going. Number of times I was abducted/murdered: 0. Things I learned about nature, fun and people: LOTS.

    As for Facebook, well, if their parents are keeping them in the house anyway, better they socialize via the interwebs than not socialize at all.

  • TeddyNYC

    In recent years I've met more teens & college-age adults with poor verbal skills, in particular maintaining a decent, basic conversation for a more than a couple of minutes. However, like a previous poster said, it's too soon to tell how good or bad this change in communication is.

  • str1cken

    Where's the box for "too soon to tell"?

    Social interaction will certainly be different for this generation, but if they're *all* interacting the same way *and* it helps them communicate quickly, efficiently, and effectively, whose to say whether that's good or bad? It may be bad for *our* relationships with *them*, but it may be better for their generation as a whole.

  • laisla

    I am not convinced an inability to write and speak in complete sentence or being without social cues can ever truly be beneficial to our society.

  • matty

    Subjective opinion: I have never once gotten laid via the internet. So no, it doesn't help.

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