New York Ranked #58 Best City To Find Love In

So yeah, Valentine's Day is around the corner, but big whoop, this is New York City, romance runs through our sewers practically— we've got romantic bridges, we fall in love with our doormen, hell, there's a whole genre of movies about falling in love in NYC (or with NYC). But according to the scientists at Daily Beast, you're more likely to find love in Omaha, NE or Newark, NJ than here! It doesnt help that their rating system doesn't make much sense—We get an A for "marriage," but a D for "divorce?" Thankfully, the Post is on top of the situation; they point NYers to love guru Dr. Paul Dobransky, who "charges up to $500 an hour for a personal session," and gives some particularly creepy tips to help men read women's "attraction signals," like a relaxed jaw and tilted head: "She's saying, 'I'm exposing my most vulnerable area. I'm trusting you with my safety.' "

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By Ben Yakas in Miscellaneous on February 8, 2010 5:03 PM

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Joshua_Whalen

MMMmmmm.... This male NYC Native's take:
Most people who've come to NYC in the past 25 years (since the mid to late '80's) have an idea that:

1 - New York is full of assholes so they can be as rude and dismissive and cruel as they like and no one will have any basis to object, and that goes double for the opposite sex

2 - They tend to be the most aggressive, type-A types, looking to make the big score in one way or another, and they want the trophy boy/girl to go with their benz and their condo

3 - They have an Ivy degree and their spouse had better have one too.

4 - their career is more important than any man/woman and they will make no changes to their life agenda for ANYONE. Period.

5 - They're so insisent on "having it all" that the idea of living cheaper so they can have more time to have a healthy relationship is out of the question

7 - They've tolerated the idea that success and workaholism go hand in hand long enough that all employers expect them to work insane hours, and who has time for anything but the quick and dirty zipless fuck on a 60 hour work week?

8 - Trustifundians only marry other trustys.

So my advice, ladies:

Screw how much he makes. Guys with lots of money didn't get that way by being kind, sweet or generous. The more they earned, the more they spurned.

Skip the Hamptons, no one but snide assholes of either gender. Do Fire Island, Brighton Beach, and the Rockaways.

Stay AWAY from any place that's gotten a write-up, anywhere. Wander aimlessley around Fort Greene or Prospect Heights bars or cafes, not the East Village or Greenpoint. The southern half of the Slope ain't too bad, either.

Remember, people who work in high-intensity, hoighly competitive occupations are aggressive, and mean. Yes, they will throw you under a bus for someone with nicer legs. People who work in jobs where everyone goes out for chinese food on payday, and then a few drinks are the people who nest. Stick to those.

Finally, given the way sexual harrasment is classified in this town these days, expect to make the first move. Most decent guys won't approach you any more for fear of being ushered out for harrasing the customers. If he's checking you out, start talking first. He'll be thrilled.

bornbrednewyorker

I found NY women to be one neurotic nightmare after the next. That is why I married a transplanted European.

Kelles

a relaxed jaw and tilted head: "She's saying, 'I'm exposing my most vulnerable area. I'm trusting you with my safety.' "

What's he saying when he's always playful and friendly with you but with strangers, he's quieter, withdrawn, almost hostile ... and then he urinates on the furniture?

Oh...plus his nose is cold and moist

HBHB

No doubt I can find love in Newark with $50 and a half hour to spare.

NannyState

"Dr. Paul Dobransky, who "charges up to $500 an hour for a personal session," and gives some particularly creepy tips to help men read women's "attraction signals," like a relaxed jaw and tilted head: "She's saying, 'I'm exposing my most vulnerable area. I'm trusting you with my safety.' "

Actually, that means the Rohypnol has finally kicked in.

eat vegans

NYC is the best place for casual encounters with DOM Greek BBWs for NSA GFE and skiing. Not sure about love though.

swoop

NYC is terrible for dating. Everyone has their own agenda and no one has two spare seconds for casual conversation. And if you try to start on a subject people think you're weird.

Shinobi Shaw

You hit the nail on the head and I agree with everyone here, NYC dating is terrible.

Trilby16

I'm sure the men here will have something to say about NY women, but from my perspective, NY men are mostly narcissistic, always on the look-out for someone "hotter," immature, cheap, responsibility-avoiding momma's boys. The ones I meet, anyway.

I'm not talking about YOU!

Disclaimer: These remarks reflect only my own personal life experience. I had to move out of the city to find a man to have a family with.

maevemealone

I agree on everything you said

nicemarmot

Yes, I brought my man with me to the city. Or more accurately, he dragged me here kicking and screaming. Where I promptly discovered that the 10000000 bitches looking for sugar daddies in this city try to fall all over him because he has money. Yuck. Not to mention out of all my single friends here, only a few have had long-term relationships while living in the city, even though they all claim to be looking for love.

So ladies, if you're looking for man-whores or commitmentphobic mama's boys, NYC is the place for you. Guys, if you like your ladies gold-digging, shallow and too skinny, come to NYC!

JenChungsBaby

When the dating scene is a smorgasbord for you then you can act that way. Perhaps you were doing too much 212 and would have been better with a 718er?

Rocknrope

"A relaxed jaw and tilted head: "She's saying, 'I'm exposing my most vulnerable area. I'm trusting you with my safety.'"

Or she could be a confused german shepherd.

greeen

NYC= worst worst place to meet a man if you are a woman. There are at least 8 eligible women for each eligible man.

SP

What are you up to this weekend?

NannyState

Three e's.

SP

three e's as in three hits of e? or is that code for something else?

NannyState

"greeen"

JenChungsBaby

Is 58 the average for men and women? Because NY is like the 95th best place for women to find love in and maybe the 7th or 8th best place for men.