Dude Finds Love On Match.com But Sues For $5 Million Anyway

so.. ummmm, Gwinny >shuffles feet, shifts awkwardlylooks downlooks up, smiles sheepishlyHolds Breath

So I was going to ask you out for coffee, but apparently I broke gothamists comment system, so now I'm just gonna slink back into the dark corner I came from and be alone with my douche chills.

Some people are just whiny little douchebags no matter what.

You can hand them a bar of gold and they will sue you because it is not shiny enough.

Taking "psoriasis" out of your profile helps...

WAIT-the article says that McGinn eventually did find love on match.com. So why still a $5M lawsuit?

I guess love is not enough for him, he needs love and money.

Wouldn't it be awesome if Gwinny met a guy on here? COME ON, NOT DOUCHEBAGGY GOTHAMIST MEN, STEP UP AND ASK THIS GAL OUT!

I would, but I'm a married mother of one.

Impossible. All Gothamist men are douchebags by definition, including me. Gwinny, now I realize that you have a cat as an avatar. But seriously stay away from that psycho cat-loving-you-know-who.

I think the problem with the online stuff is the fact that it is online! online is a universe that to a certain extent isn't reality. you might think you get along with someone but when you meet them it's a totally different story. that is why meeting in person is waaaay better. your mind doesn't have time to build up all sorts of preconceptions.

I think we can all acknowledge that humans are complex creatures and cannot be whittled down to a page-long profile. that's the fun part of getting to know someone, you learn more about them over time, not over a screen snapshot.

get to swingin'! hot!

Not acting too desperate is also a good place to start...

I should be more specific, they're GoddessBBW parties.

go to them Goddess parties downtown,

they seem friendly and like to party.

Shower, shave, stop looking at internet porn, leave the basement, exercise, get a hobby, and talk to members of the opposite sex. Chances are you will meet someone interested in you. Scouring profiles like a serial killer is fucking lame.

"Chances are you will meet someone interested in you."

Chances are, Johnny Mathis? I don't know... it's pretty rare. Looking a online profiles isn't so bad.

Outfits like match.com all suffer from the same issue: the number of men seeking women is significantly higher than the number of women seeking men. If they admitted the truth, they'd have a harder time selling memberships to men, so they stretch the truth.

That's actually not the case in the NYC area... there are over 200,000 more single women than single men here. I am sure that many of these women are also flooding the dating sites (having given up on everything else).

http://www.observer.com/2008/straight-women-new-york-citys-mating-market-worst-country

Gwinny,

A LOT of New York women want "Mr Big" - the rich, handsome (and did I say rich?) Wall Street guy who's going to buy them the big house in the suburbs, enable them to quit their job, and pay for the 4 kids, a dog and a minivan that they say they want.

There's a chronic shortage of men like that here - and, just like SATC's fictional "Mr Big" the real life ones are mostly married.

On the other hand, there is a huge surplus of regular guys who just want a good woman - and guys like that have to resort to things like Match.com - because the women looking for "Mr Big" won't even give regular men a second look!

I hope now people can assess the damage SATC has done to the millions of naive young women throughout the world. An effigy of SJ Parker should be burnt in front of a Jimmy Choo store as a reminder of the delusional expectations caused by this show.

Maybe they need to stop looking for that Ivy League educated millionaire who looks like Brad Pitt and/orr Hugh Jackman, because THOSE kinds of guys don't have time for regular ol' Jane Doe.

I do.

I don't doubt that there are a lot of goldiggers out there, but there are also plenty of women who are just looking for a normal guy. Personally, I can't say I've run across a whole lot of them either, though.

I know I'm probably opening up myself for a world of abuse here, and I do NOT agree with this whole "waaah my feelings were hurt so I'm suing" mentality, but here goes: I have been on Match for nearly a year now (I got 6 months free for not being "successful") and in that time, I have written to upwards of 300 guys who matched me (i.e. I was looking for someone like them and vice versa). Out of those, about 10 people wrote back -- over the last 11 months.

I'm not unattactive, or fat, or stupid, and have no male pattern baldness (being female and all). However, I did eventually get the impression that I was writing to people who simply did not actually exist...so yeah, I kinda agree with this dude on that level.

Needless to say, I am letting my own subscription expire next month. Overall it's been an extremely pointless and disappointing experience (but not sue-worthy).

In order for the Gothamist commenter community to accurately assess your situation, you're going to have to post a pic.

We'll be waiting.

If less than one half of one percent of the guys you wrote to actually responded then yeah, the site's probably a crock of shit. If a guy's online like that he's probably going to respond to most of the chicks who write to him.

some one give this guy a blow up doll already

Ugh, yeah. I ditched NoMatch for OkCupid like a year ago... I have no idea why people still pay for online dating. I don't know if blaming the dude is really fair tho. Match has always felt kind of sketchy. (Didn't they get sued a couple of years ago for having employees pose as members or something too?)

What is his proof that these people do not exist? Could it be they just don't want to write him back?

I sense that his inferno of humiliation has just gotten 1000 degrees hotter.

Wow! Personally I was waiting for the Park Slope kids to grow up before this kind of thing would start to happen. Most "Girls" online are dudes. Remember that too.

douche award 2009. hands down.

werd

all jokes aside, that is a pretty insensitive thing for match.com to do in order to keep subscribers.

how else are they going to keep up with eHarmony?

that's no good at all. this person is putting stock into something that isn't even there!

Oh, loneliness and cheeseburgers are a dangerous mix!!

...then you futilely "wink" back again and again into a frigid, soulless void, until finally breaking down and sobbing so loudly your roommate has to bang on your bedroom wall.

Nice touch JDS. I see you had fun with this one.

That guy actually does look like a human incarnation of comic book guy with short hair and glasses.

I agree with you Kojak, there is something wrong with him, he looks like he is 47, not 37 as he claims. That is why he is on Match.com. Another SADO!!

I agree with you, Kojak: this "dude" looks like he's 47 not 37, maybe that is why he is on Match.com in the first place. SADO

Instead of going online to find a mate, why don't you have your friends hook you up or something? Or go to a lounge / Bar/ whatever. Craigslist maybe??? That's FREE!!!

Or dial the numbers in the back of the Village Voice?

Or go to a lounge / Bar/ whatever. Craigslist maybe???

It sounds like the guy wants a long-term relationship. Not friends-with-benefits, one-night stands, or massages/whores.

Who doesn't want THAT?