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Are any New York-based Morrissey fans less miserable now? Last night a Smiths speed dating event went down in Greenpoint, and NY Mag tossed themselves into the mix of single Moz fans. Sadly, but appropriately, it was as awkward as one might expect— this charming man reports back: "Among the single souls who turned up hoping to use mildly suicidal rock music as a basis for true love was your Intel correspondent's ex-girlfriend. Along with every other single girl in Brooklyn." It turns out too many women showed, throwing off the gender balance and forcing host Dave Hill to announce that "we have to close the registration to women.” which even meant “The girl with the Smiths tattoos got turned away”. Le sigh. Perhaps band-themed speed dating should be reserved for more upbeat groups like They Might Be Giants.
Single Smiths Fans of the World Unite...in Brooklyn
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Isn't it true that there are more single women in NYC than men?
Yes, that is true. On top of that, single women are MUCH more likely to attend singles events... take it from me who's attended a whole lot over the years. It doesn't matter what the format or type of event is: hiking/adventure society stuff, cocktail parties, speed dating, even volunteer work... the story is the same: a ratio of women to men that can be as bad as 8 to 1.
From my own experience, a lot of the single women are whiney, my-career-comes-first types. Self pity is not as attractive as you think. If your main topic of conversation is how there's no decent men around, (when you're not even that much of a prize catch yourself), don't be surprised when the guys do a 180 and walk away.
Also, if you wait till you're nearly 40 because you've been too busy having a good time and climbing the company ladder, don't be shocked when most of the best men are already settled down with their chosen bride. It's like anything else you go shopping for ladies, the longer you wait, the slimmer the pickings. No wonder so many of them hated Sarah Palin; successful happily married young, big family, still hot looking in her 40's. How dare she!
What is it with right-wing types who think women should all have the urge to breed and settle down in their 20s? It never occurs to their tiny brains that some women, like men, aren't "climbing the corporate ladder or having a good time," we're just living.
For every woman in her 20s who marries young and held as an example by finger-shakers to the rest of us as the way we ought to behave, there's a newly divorced one in her 30s. Don't admonish the rest of us for being cautious, or assume we want to birth 5 kids (I think owning a passport takes precedence).
As for me, I would never, ever attend a "singles event." Even the supposedly cool themes just come across as incredibly lame (I remember hearing about an NPR singles event...*shudder*). I met my significant other through friends, thank you.
I also have a theory about why there are supposedly more single women in NYC than anywhere else: women are just more adventurous, and have a less of a tendency to stay close to home. NYC is a destination for transplants, and it's safe to say there are more women who have the urge to leave the safety of a hometown and see what the rest of the world has to offer. This holds true in every family I've known - the girls leave, the boys stay close to Grandma.
I agree. Women are free to settle down whenever they want and have or not have kids, focus on career, whatever, I don't really care. I'm simply tired of hearing them whinge and whine about it when things don't work out like they planned or hear any more hysteria about biological time clocks ticking.
"it's safe to say there are more women who have the urge to leave the safety of a hometown and see what the rest of the world has to offer."
Safe to say? Not at all. It's completely unsupported, unverifiable, and isn't even based on any logical grounds.
Why couldn't it could be exactly the opposite? There are more women than men in NYC because the men are more adventurous and leave the city to see what the rest of the world has to offer. The women just stay here.
Yep, that's gonna be my theory and it is every bit as firmly grounded.
Not much of a theory.
Most guys I know go for some adventure in their lives. Women do join the Marines, leave town to work in oil fields, try for a sports career, start a professional band and backpack around the world, but never as often as men.
None of that applies to me or how I've led my life, but thanks for your thoughts.
It's also true women have far less time to get what they want and most want a family. How many years between college (forget grad school) and infertility? If men faced time limits like this, then where wouldn't be an imbalance.
Just have another one...you've guaranteed a sausagefest next time.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ZwUi_jfs9I
Aren't his male fans mostly gay? They already have speed dating I believe, it's called cruising.
Sounds like a bunch of girlfriends in a coma.
You're telling me. I went, and I stood on my own. Then I left on my own, went home, cried, and I wanted to die.
this post made me upload all my Smiths' cd's to my iriver.
Stop me if you've heard this one before, but IMHO, if you are a single woman having a tough time finding a suitable guy in NYC, the reason is simple -- you just haven't earned it yet, baby.
Normally when I go to these events, I want to hang the DJ. It's because the music that they constantly play says nothing to me about my life. That's why I thought this particular thing would be perfect. I mean, I KNOW I'm unloveable, you don't have to tell me.
The only reason I showed up to the stupid thing at all is that, the previous night, I had dreamt that someone loved me. It was just another false alarm, though.
My friend Paul, however, did hook up with a girl, and on the way out the darndest thing happened. A 10 ton truck nearly smashed into the both of them. And he realized that to die by her side wouldn't really be that great.
Uniting in Brooklyn makes sense because traveling in groups helps keep the muggers away.
"single women" aka dumb women....
especially in new york city.. if you keep on ignoring the guys on the street, book stores, coffee shops, trains and hide behind your sunglasses and i-pods there is no cure for you. You will be surfing the dating sites online and complain to your girlfriends.
Do not fear, single women of new york, I shall come to your resuce soon enough.
"Resuce" Ha!
I'm VERY single but I think that "singles event" and "online dating" is just not the way to go.
I'd rather be alone, thanks.
hair brushed and parted...typical me, typical me. Seriously, this isn't a bad idea. I've had a LOT of exes that weren't into the Smiths and I am over it.