April 4, 2008
Map of the Day: NYC Needs More Single Men
While Forbes named NYC as one of the top singles cities in America last year, it turns out the reason why there are so many singles here is because women outnumber men by roughly 210,000. Things are not looking good, ladies. Apparently we are living in the worst "mating market" in the country!
Richard Florida, the author of Who’s Your City?, delivers this news through the above map (which appeared in National Geographic). Perhaps this will deter any future Carries from moving to Manhattan in hopes of meeting their own Mr. Big.
While Jezebel looks at it as a "depressing m*therf*cker," The Observer points out we'll likely be sharing the wealth with other cities soon, as spiking real estate prices may drive the creative class out to Philly.
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Can we kill the term "creative class"?
What do you mean? There's tons of single men in NYC, there just gay.
Great! Single ladies... come to the land of SFist (San Francisco). I'm single and in need of someone!
As someone who has been attempting to date here since 1992, all I have to say is: no. fucking. shit.
That map is largely meaningless. Here is a careful analysis of what it really means. Quick read: taking college-educated people age 18 to 44 into account, there's relatively little difference among U.S. metropolitan areas when it comes to the percentages of single men vs. single women.
Half Sigma, a 40ish male blogger living in Hell's Kitchen who often writes about gender issues and the shortage of decent women in Manhattan, is doing a multipart series examining gender balances all over the country.
duh, North Jersey is counted in the census. explains a lot.
Um, has it occurred to anyone that the more single men there are in an area the more happily single men there are in an area? Duh?
Single men are happier and happier staying single, especially as they watch women get more and more desperate. Which is pathetic and true. They can just switch to another woman when their current squeeze starts going psycho and clingy on them.
It's not the lack of single men that's the problem! It's the relationship between the sexes that's the problem. I mean, for those who actually want to get married. Which I don't. So, I don't have a problem. Women need to stop evaluating themselves on the basis of whether they have a boyfriend/husband or not. Then maybe they wouldn't be such basket cases with and without men.
there are a bunch of factors at work.
There are single women who are single because they want to be.
There are single women who are single because they are unattractive and have miserable personalities.
There are single women who are single because they pass up decent guys who aren't 6'+ tall, handsome, investment bankers (or similarly high income earner).
There might be some disparity in numbers, but there are millions of men in this city too- if you're a single woman and unhappy about it, you're probably doing something wrong.
New York's a friggin' smorgasbord! But I knew that already. Any guy who whines that he can't get laid here is a flat-out LOSER.
All I know is that whenever I attend social events (whether specifically for singles or not), women outnumber men by as much as 10 to 1... and this has been going on for years.
What's wrong with me then? I ain't getting any. Man, I drink too much. That's the problem. And I have a surly tongue. The ladies don't like it. Friday nights I'm like cross between and evil clown and Bukowski. Not a pretty sight. I need a drink.
Maybe women will start giving beta males a shot. They outnumber the alpha males by a lot. And they'll be nicer to you.
Aren't the men in the "creative class" gay?
Makes ya think that Spitzer was herb for paying for it!
I think there's probably so many single women around here because of guys like commenters 7 and 8 up there.
You mean the city with the highest concentration of women acting the opposite of sterotypical gender roles have the hardest time finding men?
Impossible.
Which single women are they?
Do those of us few, selective single men want to date them?
plenty of single asian males in nyc and america. if other than asian females are looking(probably with white guys)
west coast is a bleeding sausage fest, damn, hell no to that noise, yeah all us nyc guys got it made here
Long Beach, CA is hugely gay. I used to live there and was woken up once by the street being whipped by a 10ft leather whip, part of the pride parade. just sayin'
But where are the heterosexual men with jobs (not hedge fund jobs, just JOBS)? I'm a parent of three daughters in college.
But where are the heterosexual men with jobs (not hedge fund jobs, just JOBS)? I'm a parent of three daughters in college.
Dating your daughters, I'm afraid...
I think there's probably so many single women around here because of guys like commenters 7 and 8 up there.
Don't blame me, I'm just saying it like it is. The reasonably attractive women with good personalities I know might be single between relationships, but they generally aren't on the market for long.
Sorry, "lower manhattan (21)"
I hate to be snide; I do.
It's just that both sides are so particular here. Look around. Eveyone has a look of vague dissatisfaction on their faces. It's not so very hard to find love when you soften your ego.
I think everyone is hung up on quantity and not quality. I bet all the single women work at the MTA and are named bertha. If you are a hot single woman you are gonna get some even if you don't want it. If you are what my gramps calls an "UGGO" then you aren't getting any. You'll be dreaming that you are carrie bradshaw. A ugly woman with a great career and wardrobe with a sex life. When you bring a real carrie bradshaw into the real world, the best she can do is gaylord matthew broderick.
According to that map it looks like I'm starving to death in a supermarket.
www.forgotten-ny.com
Unfortunately for us Asian men, intelligence is out of fashion, and gigantic cocks and stupidity are in.
Whats with all the bitter Asians? Chill the fuck out.
"I bet all the single women work at the MTA and are named bertha."
lol yes, its so true.
Also unfortunate for you Asian guys is the fact that a lot of Asian chicks are looking elsewhere because they grew up watching their Asian fathers be abusive to their Asian mothers (in my experience), and second because they want big hairy manly guys with schlong to spare (as you say). On the other hand, I've only ever met one white, black or hispanic chick who's dated an Asian guy.
And Asian chicks are hot too -- all the more smorgasbord for the rest of us!!!
My number one advice for desperate chicks is to move, to Alaska.
Indeed. We may excel in discipline, however the prior generation's relationship mindset is quite out of fashion.
You know, when I was a kid my mother told me I'd never get married if I didn't change my ways. I finally realized she was simply telling me how to remain my sweet and happy self! I've never changed my ways, and I've never been subjected to the embittering miseries of marriage or of "settling."
I have a long term lover, and quite happy with my life. I don't really know why women demand so much from men, when they're obviously so miserable with them once they've got them underfoot 24/7. I am free, and loved. What the hell more could a woman in her right mind want?
I say STAY SINGLE AND LEARN TO LOVE IT. Not everyone was made to get married! One can always have a nice lover (though Europeans are much better at the lover etiquette, and American men who don't want to get married are mostly selfish and abusive for as long as possible, in my experience, and more's the pity for them).
I've been married 4 times just to spread the love around.........Nah!
gwinny can i come to your parties?
Sex and the City has made the women of NYC undateable. Every woman you meet has height and income requirements. You either stay single or stay in a relationship that makes you want to jump in front of a train occasionally.
i meet some asian girls who were only into white boys, cause they were from poor backgrounds and they equate white being wealthy.
only people who talk about sizes are white guys. you never hear asians or blacks talk about sizes.
i called the abuse bs.
By JenChungsBra
[29] | 04/04/08 11:11PM
must be white boy who gots yellow fever.
If Men were trained to like commitment a lot of
Women would marry them. But they know they are the
minority and date date date.
I like them all Armchair, white, hispanic, Indian, Asian, whatever. The only racial group I never dated was black, and I'd have done that too if the right opportunity presented itself.
The Asian chicks I've known (a small percentage of all that I've known, you've forced me to say), whether from poor backgrounds or not, were all getting along very well in their own careers and had more money than me and never gave any indication that they were looking for anything other than companionship, a good time and a good roll in the hay. And that's what I gave them. Any thoughts I've attributed to Asian girls here are directly from them, not stuff I made up.
And the one white girl I know who dated an Asian guy told me she wished he was larger and more manly looking! I speak from experience. Nivek seems to agree.