Gothamist: Sleepless in NYC

Helen

Sat, 07 Apr 2007 06:55:59 -0500

Dear mags, I'll be a mom on 6th month and Im awaiting for my first baby, but im scared if i can't be a good mom for him ;-). And I read your another post about 'Opinionist: When Baby Blogs Go Bad', actually, I wanna add a comment there, but there's no from to fill my comment. so I write here, if you don't mind. Im agree with you, if that girl its such an dreamer, and im curious about her, so I try to open her Xanga, but, I cant found her page. I'm wondering, What kind of girl is she? what banefit she got from put your baby picture on her page?? But I can't deny that your baby, its so adorable :-). Who's his name? Regards, Helen.

bofug

Wed, 07 Mar 2007 23:55:59 -0500

Sleep coach? WTF? Are they your acheivment trophies or your kids? Kids sleep, eat, poop, etc. based on their needs. And kids vary, even in families. Now, colicky, that's a whole different story. Maybe if you spent some time interacting with your adopted Asian, rather that your Pilates and Crackberry addiction, they'd feel better. Kids are a helluva a lot more adaptable than you think. Fussy? throw 'em in your lap while you cruise the net or watch the news. Interact rather than toss 'em in the SUV stroller while you have cucumber slices rubbed on your butt or your botox injected. Maybe if you were a better parent this would not be an issue. Or maybe if they don't sleep it's because thsy wonder "Hey where's my sweet Haitian mommy that cares for me all day and treats me so nice(ly)." And yes, I have cool 9-year old twins, live in NYC and me & the missus are professionals without trust funds. No SUVs, no tantrums, polte kids, spend a lotta time together, no coaches, just a Mom & Dad. And before you start ranting on Wall Street bonuses & shit, we don't do that. Not our professions. And I'm from Brooklyn. Learned by example from my Brooklyn-born parents. when it comes down to it, the kids are your most important asset in life Cut the yuppie BS. Be a Parent. Bofug

Spud Spudly

Wed, 07 Mar 2007 17:22:54 -0500

In my limited experience, at three months the kid started sleeping through the night with no interruptions. That means from ~8PM to ~7AM the next day. He still does that 14 months later. It's heavenly. I know it's going to change, but for now it's great.

mags

Wed, 07 Mar 2007 17:10:16 -0500

Ummm...at three months, no a baby would not usually sleep twelve hours. From like 9 months on, yes, they can and often do. I am a parent and that's what I have personally experienced.

Z

Wed, 07 Mar 2007 17:05:58 -0500

You obviously are not a parent if you actually expect a baby to sleep 12 hours through the night.

Tim N.

Wed, 07 Mar 2007 16:45:01 -0500

My daughter barely slept 10 hours as a newbie (17-20 is normal). We found out quickly why the first thing interrogators do to prisoners is deprive them of sleep. So I could see where someone who could spend fifty grand on a car or a sleep coach would opt for the latter. So on the one hand it's just capitalism at work. But on the *other* hand, people... puh-lese! Get one of those automatic swings! It's a lot less than 50K! And yes, when the kid nods off you do see the face of God.

Robot

Wed, 07 Mar 2007 15:38:44 -0500

I'm not a baby person (at all), but the baby picture above is really cute. Because of the picture, I even read this article which has absolutely no pertinence to my life. However, to comment on the article I will say that I don't understand why people have children if they are going to hire sleep trainers, nannies, etc. to care for the child.

Scott

Wed, 07 Mar 2007 15:38:39 -0500

Sleep coaching sound like nonsense to me, but I was lucky. My first daughter slept through the night (and by that I mean from around 11:00 to 5:00... which, trust me, is HEAVEN) from Day 3 on. My second daughter? Week six. As toddlers and elementary school kids, they also slept until well past 8:00 or even 9:00 on weekends. I wish I could tell you why, or what we "did", but it just happened. And what going on with us these days? Glad you asked... scoboco.blogspot.com

mother

Wed, 07 Mar 2007 15:08:55 -0500

Having raised 2 children and shared experiences with other mothers, it's apparent each child is different and will settle into his/her own sleeping pattern eventually. Out Gothamist child slept through the night at 6 weeks and slept a total of 18 hours a day until she was 8 months old. Little brother was colicky and cried for 2 hours every night (always woke up at 1:30AM) for 3 months. But after that he was fine until he was 2 years old and decided to climb into our bed in the middle of the night...but that is another story. In my view, sleep coaches are over-rated.