Gothamist: Singles City

bryce dye

Fri, 22 Dec 2006 23:03:28 -0500

Denver is garbage for singles

Teddy N

Thu, 27 Jul 2006 01:07:40 -0500

I'm the right now guy.

Tiago

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 21:10:27 -0500

i am the right guy

Samantha T

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 17:19:51 -0500

Funny - I thought being single in Boston was far more brutal than in NYC. NYC's biggest problem, and it's biggest benefit, is that people don't really question staying single for a long time. In that sense, it's great to be single because you're not constantly being asked why you're not married/partnered. On the other hand, it means that people don't feel all that pressured to commit when they're in a relationship because there's no cultural pressure to be exclusive/get married/etc. If you get the sense that your boyfriend is looking around, ladies, either start doing the same or drop him. The more time you waste with him, the less time you're spending finding the right guy.

bklyn guy

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 17:09:16 -0500

I think Jen's own comments to Forbes.com on the NYC single scene sums it up: "I'm pretty sure that even the guys with the girlfriends are also dating other people." Harsh indeed.

Teddy N

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 16:46:44 -0500

One of the reasons there are so many singles in this city is because it's harder here to begin & maintain a healthy relationship with all of the "options" available, especially for men. Most younger men realize it's better to remain single as long as possible when they live here (of course this leads to more NYC women being single). Most of the couples I know began their relationship somewhere else and I know one couple that left because the woman felt the relationship was under too much "pressure" here. Actually, I heard from a source that her guy was "looking" around. There are four single women in their 50s living in my building who never met "Mr. Right" in the 25+ years they lived in the city. It's not like they didn't try.

my experience

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 16:31:45 -0500

it's easier to meet a guy to go out on a handful of dates with here, but it's a lot harder to meet a guy who will stick around for the long term (if that is what you want). whenever i have met people, it has always been random. i agree that volunteer opportunities are mostly women looking to meet men. i think the trick is to have a wide variety of things you do: work, gym, coffee shop, volunteer, hobbies, travel, internet and it's basically a numbers game after that. i read somewhere that the reason people in nyc have such trouble finding mates is that they have too much choice, therefore, they are paralyzed when it comes to choosing. interestingly, the article also went on to say that people with more choices are less happier than those of us with fewer choices. There was some example with cookies or something and the people who had to choose from 10 cookies couldn't do it but people who only had to choose from 3 could. Weird.

La Leone

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 16:19:57 -0500

Strange, Gwin, as a single woman I always find myself socializing with equal #'s of single men. I would not agree with the 75% single women ratio... But of course, there are myriad NYC "activites", so who knows? Also trying everything to meet them does not work, I think. There is no doubt in my mind that as soon as you don't want men around they start materializing out of the woodwork, non-stop. But if you are still looking, then good luck. :)

Gwin

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 15:54:49 -0500

Ha. Seems like there are tons of single women here, but not a whole lot of single men! I've tried everything to meet them but all the volunteer opportunities, outdoor activities etc. are at leat 75% women. Blah. I've been here 14 years and that's been the case for the entire time...

Ando

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 15:37:09 -0500

"Culture: Our cultural index is determined by the number of museums, pro sports teams and live theater and concert venues per capita, as well as the university population, in each metro." http://www.forbes.com/2006/07/25/singles-cities-methodology-cx_lr_06singles_0725method.html

Joe

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 15:12:06 -0500

The update from Forbes makes no sense. If the ranking is by number of singles then it will closely follow city population, i.e. NY, LA, Chicago, Houston etc. with a few exceptions for smaller cities like Boston that have a much greater percentage of college students in their populations. Can you tell I work with demographers?

Charles

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 15:08:13 -0500

quote:If you're a fun extrovert, NYC is great. If you're an introvert or cliquish, it's probably how you describe it, and there's probably not much reason to be around so many people in the first place. If youre a fun extrovert, *anyplace* is great. It doesn't matter. And maybe NYC is the place for shy introverts to be, there are more people to potentially run into. Fun extroverts can be exhausting and annoying anyway. NYC is for all kinds.

Danielle

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 14:39:14 -0500

how how HOW is Phoenix number one for CULTURE????

tarheel

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 14:29:21 -0500

You're not going to find a lot of singles in Raleigh Durham. Most of the people there are married by the age of 16. If they are single, they have a kid. It's not really a town for meeting other singles.

nick

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 14:16:55 -0500

this just made me stoked for my upcoming trip to raleigh durham.

Paul

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 13:07:33 -0500

These rankings are crap. Pheonix is a shit hole and clearly NYC ranks #1 in culture. I'm guessing aging business types are writing for Forbes.

b

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 13:00:52 -0500

lol @ that rank they rated Cincinnati #1 in nightlife and Phoenix #1 in culture hilarious

bkbkbkbkbkb

Wed, 26 Jul 2006 12:58:13 -0500

It's easy meeting people outside your circle - just, talk, to people, and be open when others talk to you. Socializing - Lots of people are doing it!!!! If you're a fun extrovert, NYC is great. If you're an introvert or cliquish, it's probably how you describe it, and there's probably not much reason to be around so many people in the first place.