Gothamist: First Date Jitters

the dude

Sun, 12 Dec 2004 22:20:19 -0500

ok, maybe im naive here, but what is there to "over-analyze" about good manners? is there some negative connotation to good manners i am not aware of?

embee

Wed, 08 Dec 2004 21:25:00 -0500

YES re the light-on-scent tip ... way too many men wear way too much cologne (though any cologne is too much in my view).

Edward Felcher

Tue, 07 Dec 2004 17:36:18 -0500

Giving him a good blow-job will always ensure that he thinks about you in a positive fashion. If you make this "step one", you can let all the other rules mentioned about slide a bit.

K

Mon, 06 Dec 2004 16:28:21 -0500

What about just being yourself?! Granted I've been with the same girl the last 4 years and haven't had any first dates in between. But what's the point of studying up or staging a performance when the truth will only hit later? If it's a question of a quick lay however, that's a different story.

htb

Mon, 06 Dec 2004 15:53:24 -0500

Be sure to read the NY Times that day -- or at least scan the headlines. Current events will give you timely topics to chat about. Being unaware of current events can make you come off as clueless.

BrianVan

Mon, 06 Dec 2004 13:57:46 -0500

If you can carry condoms discreetly, and if you're the type of person that enjoys sex, then by all means do have one available. It's tougher to bring the fuzzy handcuffs along, though.

Jen W

Mon, 06 Dec 2004 13:46:19 -0500

I wouldn't carry condoms with me (and I wouldn't want a guy to be holding either), but I'd check my supply before I left home. That's a general single-person note: always have condoms in the bedside drawer.

KeithS

Mon, 06 Dec 2004 13:24:55 -0500

"- And while we’re at it in the ‘you never know’ department, carry condoms, too." Have to disagree with this one. Safe sex is good, but a girl packing rubbers on the first date would give me pause.

Jen

Mon, 06 Dec 2004 13:18:07 -0500

Good points, especially the "don't over-analyze": - Try to find some easy to talk about topic early on in your conversation, so you can riff on it later (does you date like TV? Talk about TV shows you like - but be open if his/her taste isn't anything like yours) - If you hit a lull in the conversation, ask questions. Pretend you're a detective or a reporter! - Have an out; either have a friend call you or state at the beginning of the evening that you need to get home because you've got an early work meeting