Gothamist: Long Distance Love

Lauren

Sun, 16 Jul 2006 01:00:54 -0500

Hi, my name is Lauren and I am 14 years old. I have been in a relationship with my hubby bubby (my boyfriends nickname)for almost 10 months now. I live in Arizona and my boyfriend came up to visit with me and my family for 3 weeks. Today he had to fly back home to California. I wanted to ask how to deal with this long distance relationship(LDR). My heart aches and I can't seem to stop crying. I calm down, but when I see the things he left here with me I just burst into tears. Perhaps because this is my first LDR? I'm not quite sure, but I want to know how to deal with it. I've been talking to him and I even cry when I do that. I miss him dearly even though we've only be apart for 10 hours. I don't want to seem like a big crybaby to him everytime I call crying my eyes out. He told me that me crying for him shows how much I care for him and I agreed, but please help me out on how to deal with my aching heart. He has helped me some by telling me to hold on too his favorite teddy bear, but is there anything else you can help me with? I just miss him so much... His hugs, kisses, and the small little "I love you" he whispers into my ear. Please give me some tips on how to be happy again.:(

Jenn

Fri, 07 Oct 2005 15:39:32 -0500

I am 19 & currently in a long distance (love) relationship. My boyfriend and I have been doing it for 10 months now and let me tell you, it is by far they hardest thing I have ever had to do. It started out ok but now, by the 10th month, each day away from him seem to hurt more and more. Hurt isn't even the word, I have never felt this way about anyone before in my life, and I never will. We are going to fight to the end. It tares us up, to be so far from each other and be so in love at the same time. I don't think I would recommend a long distance relationship to anyone, but then again it all depends on true love. If we didn't give it a shot then I wouldn't have had the chance to spend the last 10 months loving the greatest man on earth. It is a very difficult thing to have such a serious relationship during college, never mind it being long distance. It just makes everything 10 times harder. But I have been doing it so far, there are days I just break down crying because it hurts so much, and I can't stand the fact that I can't put my arms around him when I want too. So my best advice to you is to really make sure it's going to be worth it. I tell myself everyday . . . "It will be worth it when we are finally together."

Tammy

Fri, 09 Sep 2005 14:28:51 -0500

I agree that long distance relationships are very hard but I am into one right now. My boyfriend (well a fiancee now) is from Chicago and I am from Prague. We met each other in Chicago law school. We have been together now for three years. We spent 2 years together and 1 year apart from each other. At the beginning he was the one who wanted to break up with me and after my visit in Chicago he changed his mind:) Now we are engaged and plan the wedding next year in summer after my arrival from Prague, which means that this year we will be still apart:( My advice would be that you both should be willing to deal with long distance. It is very hard but it has its nice sides too - missing him, willing to see him asap and at the end if both of you survive it you'll end up with a happy, loving family. Talk to him! and just be patient. Good Luck Tammy from Prague

Jen

Wed, 13 Oct 2004 11:56:55 -0500

I have to agree with Janine - long distance during college is hard to keep up, but if you want to give it a go, you should try. But you're young and if it was meant to be, it'll happen anyway. As for the comment, above, I guess he is mistaking our site for Gawker.

Max

Tue, 12 Oct 2004 17:07:42 -0500

If you want my brutally honest opionion, this is either some sort of freakin joke, or you have actually made me miss Choire.