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2004_04_askrocky.jpgDoes etiquite demand that you cover up a facial bruise? Say you slam into a door and get a black eye. Are you obliged by standards of common decency to cover it up with makeup or sunglasses or something?
Lin, Astoria

Being a smidge on the klutzy side, Gothamist knows a thing or two about bruises.

If the injury is particularly gruesome, it can't hurt to bandage it up, but otherwise, we say wear your battle scars proudly! Black eyes typically elicit one of two responses: "Oh my, what happened?! Are you okay?!" or "Oh, geez, who'd you beat up this time." Unless you're in the habit of getting into fistfights, odds are your new shiner will get more of a sympathetic response. And sympathy can, naturally, be used to your advantage. It's sort of like being the girl in the office on crutches who everyone goes out of their way to help out. An injury on your face is a similar stamp that something traumatic happened. People tend to be nicer to you.

Not that we advocate manipulating people. Just that there is no need to go out of your way to hide these things.

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  • Herkimer

    When women have black eyes, it seems like people assume the man in their life caused it. Should you cover those up or does it make you seem more like a battered wife to do so?

  • I was in a skiing accident when I was 12 that scraped up the whole left side of my face. I was mortified, but everyone at school showered me with sympathy, including a teacher who let it go that I forgot to hand in an assignment because of my "recent trauma."

  • Jen

    Once, I had this bruise under my eye. Of course, I got it because I was trying to shut my alarm clock up and I rolled out of bed, with my eye meeting the corner of my bedside table. I thought the bruise made me look tough, but fellow high schoolers thought that I either got into a fight with my parents (no, just shouting at the Chungs') or that I had some sort of skin cancer. Sigh.

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