Gothamist: Blame Your Dating Life On Your 'Hood

jack

Tue, 16 Mar 2004 10:01:17 -0500

yeah, I gotta agree with this. I live in the LES and I be bangin all sorts of poon every day. You can't help but trip over all the tail down here! But really, I just want to find someone to hold...my cock in her mouth.

aline

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 17:00:12 -0500

hold the phone, i just read the post about hell's kitchen, and i see what is going on in the old 'hood. ewww

aline

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 16:57:26 -0500

i love how the singles are coming out of the woodwork wondering where all the other singles are. (gothamistster?) when i lived in hell's kitchen, there were no strollers or hooking up, although, so many places have opened now that i think the locals do stay in the 'hood for some transactional relating.

Max

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 15:51:11 -0500

Strollers and Dogs. Funny how those are the benchmarks of certain 'hoods. I fled the UWS due to the combo of S&Ds and very narrow sidewalks. Much better now in my CGardens digs (with my GF of 6 years - met while in WVillage and moved thru LES and UWS)

tien

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 15:45:27 -0500

i guess that whenever hte next gothamist/601 happy hour happens, there's going to be a lot of courting.

valery

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 15:13:34 -0500

Park Slope and Brooklyn Heights are definitely relational scenes. I am shacked up in Fort Greene and I must say that the stroller gridlock is hardly as oppressive here as in other Brooklyn nabes. Thank the lordy.

lara

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 14:48:26 -0500

I'm 25, and I've lived on the outskirts of Park Slope for 2+ years. Right now I'm in one of the annoying couples cohabitatating therein, but my boyfriend lived in Bay Ridge when we met. The handful of guys I dated before meeting him also lived elsewhere in Brooklyn, Manhattan, or Queens. I went to bars and shows quite a bit, but I experienced the most success in meeting guys via the internet, including my current boyfriend. I think that the more mainstream prevalence/acceptance of internet socializing in New York and other big cities makes it a little easier to meet people with similar interests in any neighborhood, at nearly any time of year... At least, that's how I've met 20-something men while living in stroller central. Before NYC I lived in North Carolina, where I had no luck with men at all-- via the internet or otherwise.

Andrew

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 14:38:04 -0500

So I can blame the fact that I live in Brooklyn Heights? Phew. I'll just agree with the previous assessments that it is very very heavily in the "relational" side of the counter...

jake@bluejake.com

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 14:27:35 -0500

i always had plenty of luck getting dates in park slope- i met my first real girlfriend there when i was 16. i remember feeling so excited about it that i felt sick. we made out on the benches in prospect park, in the classrooms at garfield temple, and in a series of parents' bedrooms in brownstones from one end of the neighborhood to the other. good times!

Tom

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 14:12:26 -0500

I'm 23 and I hope I don't die before I find a stable relationship in the city. But Boston (my hometown) isn't much better, I don't think. THe thing is, none of my friends like to go to bars and clubs so I guess the book is right in the sense of not expanding my horizons. Blah.

corie

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 13:53:54 -0500

I'm there with the Park Slope people. It seems like everyone is holding some one's hand and pushing a baby stroller. It made my single ass quite depressed when I transitioned into the area this past fall.

scotty

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 13:43:01 -0500

I'll have to break with the pack here: I've lived with my girlfriend for two years in the East Village, and we're getting married, in the East Village, this spring. Although we seem pretty alone--all of our married or committed couple friends seem to live in Brooklyn. Of course, everybody seems to live in Brooklyn these days, single or otherwise.

karatechimp

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 13:17:11 -0500

Was the drummer's girlfriend Drew Barrymore?

Glenn

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 13:10:16 -0500

In my few years here I haven't seen a single NYC relationship that has succeeded (that didn't exist before I arrived), be it in Park Slope or the East Village. Eventually, everybody breaks up.

Rafael

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 12:55:51 -0500

I live in park slope, and like Sara, my building is also filled with middle age singles... But it is hard to walk around the rest of the neigborhood without being run over by strollers. So where are these cute singles you speak of? Or is it a trade secret...

Linus

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 12:48:48 -0500

Well, he was a drummer - whadja speck?

Aaron / 601am

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 12:39:31 -0500

Yet more proof that it's much easier to find love outside NYC than it is in. My friends who have escaped, err, left the city to saner places like Pittsburgh, North Carolina and Michigan all report a much more successful dating life than they had living here. People actually *date* elsewhere, as opposed to a very, ahem, transactional (i.e. a couple of hours) scene here. Makes me wonder why I even bother staying.

Jen

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 12:35:37 -0500

The day before I moved out of Park Slope, I met a guy on the F train to Manhattan. He was cute, a drummer, etc. I went out with him three times. Then he mentioned he had a girlfriend. So that's relational for you.

Dietsch

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 12:31:31 -0500

Happy relational in Maclaren Central (i.e., Park Slope), but before hooking up with Jennifer, was below 14th St. at least three nights a week--usually striking out. There are cute singles in Park Slope, though, if you know how to ferret 'em out.

Sara

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 12:21:52 -0500

I too live in Brooklyn Heights, which is like a black hole...nary a hot dude in sight, save for the occasional hot and hip dad. I leave my apartment dressed for a night on the town and I pretty much look like an alien amongst the stroller-pushing and sweatpant wearing neighborhood residents. I love my apartment, but I've got to get out of here. The worst part is that my building is depressingly filled with singles who are all 10 years older than me. Eek! I can't become one of them!

Linus

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 12:17:13 -0500

I live in relational Brooklyn Heights (how did that happen?) and dated a girl in the neighborhood for a while. With the result that when we broke up I got to keep the bar and she got to keep the laundromat, and the annual street fair was a grimace-and-wave affair (it was not a pretty ending). And I had to change the way I walked home from the F train stop.

Aaron

Mon, 08 Mar 2004 12:14:05 -0500

Sadly, I suppose I fulfill the book's hypothesis as I'm in a steady, relational (albeit not yet married) relationship and living on the Upper West Side. However, I really want to move back downtown. Damn that rent-stabilization ... an apartment sucks you in, and then you can never leave.