Gothamist: Dating Dealbreakers

Fri, 01 Aug 2003 12:37:26 -0500

i'll second that last for hipster geek-boys as well--what, is crusty body funk the new trucker hat or something? there is nothing cool [or attractive] about smelling like you sleep in a pile of filthy socks.

RIO

Wed, 30 Jul 2003 17:23:55 -0500

"sjp is kinda ugly-cute, actually." uh, yeah. in fact, on a bad day, sjp is just plain fugly. like the wicked witch of the east hamptons. dating deal breakers... -DEFINITELY women who blog about their date. how crass and privacy violating is that? must all interpersonal relations now be public fodder to be picked apart en masse by total strangers??? (you don't know how infuriating this is until it happens to "you") -bad hygiene... or more specifically, women with bad breath. speaking of which, so far I've read three random blogs by women who looked hot, where they claimed they "hadn't bathed in a few days." hey, I like a tomboyish girl like the next guy, but c'mon, wash your ass. ;^)

rion

Wed, 09 Jul 2003 16:58:08 -0500

Jen, good point on the geek representation. no wonder i like those two guys so much! ;)

Jen

Tue, 08 Jul 2003 09:14:00 -0500

It usually is a clever way to reject the receiver, but when the mass emailer suddenly comes a-calling again, the emailed suddenly has hand! Rion - Okay, I think I know where you're going with that one, so I'll suggest that one of the girls has to date a geeky blogger who knows how to treat the women well. But actually Charlotte's boyfriend, Harry, is this clumsy, weird Jew, so I think that's the geek quotient. And actually Steve is a geek even though he may be a bartender. Those glasses! That voice!

DodgeThis

Tue, 08 Jul 2003 08:38:34 -0500

Would mass email be a deal breaker for the person who recieved it or, is it a clever way of the person who sent it, to reject the reciever????

rion

Tue, 08 Jul 2003 01:31:06 -0500

this is what i want to know: why the heck was carrie's clumsy and geeky simu-date a graphic designer? are we so dorky, by profession, that they had to make a point of it? why the blatent typecasting? --- to make up for this injustice, i think samantha should have a steamy affair with a typographer... or perhaps she should chase after some hot information architect ass... THAT's the real issue here, people.

Jen

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 17:50:57 -0500

Sam - Damn, is that what that mass email I got from that boy meant? Mass email - I'm on the utility road to Friendsville?

Aaron

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 17:43:08 -0500

You go to pick her/him up and she/he lives at home with parents.

Sam

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 17:39:37 -0500

Deal breaker: When the girl/boy includes you in a mass e-mail after just meeting you a few days ago.

Jen

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 17:20:56 -0500

Well, I can understand man hands as an excuse. And I would guess that gross feet would be a turn-off for both men and women. But I didn't realize there were specifics involved, aside from Eddie Murphy's brilliant portrayal of a man who likes lovely feet in Boomerang. And yes, Aserdaten, it totally seems that the feet thing can only be confirmed during nice weather.

Aserdaten

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 17:04:47 -0500

I've never heard this sexy hands/feet thing before. How do you find out about the feet before you've committed yourself to, um, significant intimacy? What do you do? "Hey, ummm, would you mind wearing open-toed sandals on our next date?"

j.

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 16:37:53 -0500

Sexy hands can be so many different things. My gf is an artist and her tiny hands are far from spotless, usually stained by ink, but they're precise and surprisingly powerful. Hell, perfectly manicured hands with elaborate nail polish and sculpted cuticles -- it's a major turn off -- what kind of woman spends so much time and cash on that kind of thing?

Nobi

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:59:11 -0500

A long time ago, I interned at the Cambpell Soup Company; my job was to coordinate taste-testing. Because of market fluctuations, they often changed the proportions of ingredients or even swap one ingredient for another (hence, you might see the word "or" in a list of ingredients). Anyway, even with this sometimes wild shift in recipes, the end result always tasted the same. I've always seen this as a decent analogy to why I'm attracted to wildly differing women, yet always have very similar relationships with all of them. One thing though (to carry the cuisine analogy further), I really think I'm turning into a food snob...

DodgeThis

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:41:03 -0500

Well if we were hitting it off and I personalities were compatible and things seemed to be going in the right direction, then I guess it would be...... something to tip the balance. I guess if she had the best hands and feet I might ever see and we did not hit it off it would not matter much.

Jen

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:33:40 -0500

Oh, got it, it's a totally subjective thing. For a second, I was worried there had been a tutorial on "Sexy Hands and Feet in 5 Days" and I missed the boat. So would sexy hands and feet be a deal maker? Or something to tip the balance?

DodgeThis

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:31:06 -0500

Sexy hands just have to look nice. I dont think that there is a specific formula, it just has to work on a certain level that appeals to me. I by no means want to degrade anyone's hands or feet, but some look better than others, to me anyway, dont u think so?

Jen

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:22:47 -0500

What are sexy hands and cute feet, pray tell?

DodgeThis

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:20:45 -0500

A deal breaker for me even if it might be kinda common,is if a woman doesn't have sexy hands and cute feet I cant date her.

too-shy

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:20:03 -0500

sjp is kinda ugly-cute, actually.

Ethan

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:15:17 -0500

nope, ileana douglas is just plain uggggly.

Parker Lewis

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 15:00:03 -0500

I think Ileana Douglas could be an "ugly cute" nominee.

Jen

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 14:34:47 -0500

I was just reading Marie-Claire...or was it Glamour...I think it was Glamour that said Adrien Brody was "ugly" and that "ugly cute" was the new "cute." But there were no mentions of "ugly cute" women.

Karru

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 14:20:15 -0500

Being ugly is indeed a deal breaker though many folks will look for some sort of excuse to call things off rather admit they aren't attracted to the person.

Elaine

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 14:12:03 -0500

don't hate me, i'm anti-ugly

Jen

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 14:06:54 -0500

I was rolling up our collective feelings on the matter, and the anti-Semitic thing was an actual case one of us (not me) ran into. Of course, anti-Chinese would be appropriate, but I think I've run across more asshole and stupid in my day.

Elaine

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 13:55:02 -0500

Why is being anti-semtic a deal breaker for gothamist, i thought you were asian? (not that i'm condoning a-s, but i would think anti-chinese would be more appropriate, or is gothamist really a jewish women?

Karru

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 13:52:23 -0500

A hairy navel is a deal breaker? I think I'm in the clear on that one but it is just a standout on that list.

eli

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 13:51:31 -0500

This guy has the right idea: "I can't date a woman who's up her own a��. Women who think they're the best at everything are the worst. People shouldn't be that arrogant." Manhattan is a honeypot for people like that.

abe

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 13:36:20 -0500

Apparently.

Jen

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 13:26:18 -0500

This stuff is very consistent. I have read my fair share of Cosmo and Elle etc. These hold water.

abe

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 13:23:42 -0500

What about deal breakers in the dating pool that exists beyond the New York � Connecticut � New Jersey deltoid? Apparently nobody else in the country watches Sex and the City (too much to hope for) or their opinions don�t matter. Fine, it�s a regional rag, but Birmingham, England? Two responses from there? Coincidence? Well, after reading this at least I know what the writer's friends think are deal breakers.

Jen

Mon, 07 Jul 2003 12:49:04 -0500

A reader just asked what's with the sex and dating theme for today. Well, it's summer, and Gothamist is hot and bothered. At least I am. Well, maybe I'm bored - it can be hard to tell.