Thoughts on Dating

When you date, unless you're lucky or foolish enough to spend your life with the first person you go out with, you will end up with exes. If you, like most of us here at Gothamist, date within your group of friends or industry or neighborhood, then you face the embarrassing likelihood of having to see or, even worse, contact them again. And again.

And as you date more people, you wind up with more connections to random people who are friends of exes. Eventually it becomes more likely than not that one of these will turn up trying to talk to you in a bar, across the table from you on a speed date, or messaging you on your internet dating service.

Part Two of Thoughts on Dating

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By Jen Chung in Miscellaneous on May 7, 2003 5:41 PM

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Jen

This is great, I hope that I'll be called "not exactly heinous...for 2003" in 16 or so years time!

Interloper Joe

I think Jen's pictures on the site are very pretty! But I guess Glenn Close wasn't exactly heinous in "Fatal Attraction". I mean, for 1987.

jake

i personally believe that jen chung has some great dating prospects- she just needs a man who can strap in for the wild ride. most guys are pussies- total wussies- so i don't really think a record of dating failures is any reasons to fret.

Dad

with globalization and all, there will soon be no such thing as "dating outside your circle." maybe in the future that might only really mean dating someone you always thought of as too young or too old for you. and even then you will run into someone's dad or son who is friends with so and so. look at friendster, for instance. it only takes a couple of connections for those people from your dodgy past to find you! yikes. who wants to move to the moon with me?

Mom

Try dating someone outside you circle!

Jen

Choire, to reward your acute sense of observation, I'll have to tell you the excellent, horrible stories offline. And lately, each day has brought some excellent, horrible story.

Choire

Umm, there's an excellent, horrible story here you're not sharing, isn't there, Jen? I'm sorry to hear that, my lamb, AND please tell me more.

jake

totally- i'm all about my exgirlfriends- it's a rare week that i don't talk to all of them. Except for one.

Dahl

Ouch, that's the reason one of my friends in Boston doesn't want to try internet dating....Boston is way too small a city and she has fears of her exes finding her profile online and thinking she's pathetic. She never seems to realize that if they are looking online for a date, they're probably not much better off than she is. For the meantime, I convince myself New York is large enough that its safe.