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Lyric Benson Murder-Suicide

Gothamist was disturbed by news this morning about the murder of Lyric Benson by her ex-boyfriend, Robert Ambrosino who then killed himself. Benson, an aspiring actress, had arrived back at her home in Chinatown with her mother, who was visiting from out of town. Ambrosino appeared behind Benson, shot her in the head, and then took the gun to his head. And, from The Daily News:

Sources said the couple had broken up amicably because Benson wanted to focus on her acting career.

The crime scene; Photo - Daily NewsNYPD spokesman Sgt. Mike Wysokowski said there was no history of domestic violence and no complaints from the two-bedroom walkup apartment on Monitor St. in Greenpoint, Brooklyn, that Benson and Ambrosino had shared until February.

"Both people were very friendly. Lyric was always smiling. Bobby was very nice, too," said Ron Hansen, 40, the couple's landlord. "Even when she moved out a month or two ago, they were very cordial. They never, ever fought. Never."

There is an unfortunate pattern of violence during and after relationships - no one ever thinks anything bad will happen. As a self-defense teacher said to Gothamist, there's no such thing as an amicable breakup. It's sad that in our own memory, Gothamist remembers two similar cases:

- During Gothamist's senior year at Columbia, there was a murder across the street on West 113th, when Columbia law student, Hyseung Lynda Hong, was killed by ex-boyfriend Edmund Ko in 1998. Ko was apparently trying to prove his love to his current jealous girlfriend by slashing Hong's throat. (Ko was later found guilty and sentenced to life.

- In 2000, Tom Nelford, a Columbia student, killed his girlfriend, Kathleen Roskot, at her Columbia dorm, and then committed suicide by jumping in front of a train. The media surrounding the Roskot-Nelford murder suicide was intense (Ivy League Murder-Suicide) and prompted articles about on-campus awareness programs about dating violence and college pressures and mental illness.

Coverage of the Lyric Benson murder from The Times and NY Post.
Information about dating violence and violence against women (as they tend to be the victims in these situations).

Updated May 4, 2003: Lyric Benson and Bob Ambrosino's Relationship, as deconstructed by the NY Times

Other related posts: Lyric Benson's almost fame and Fund for Lyric Benson's family

Gothamist on other strange NYC crimes: Tribeca Kidnapping, East Village stabbing, Brooklyn Pipe Bomb, Orchard Street Murder, Shopkeeper Killer

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  • brad

    No, Ambrosino was definitely a scumbag of the lowest sort, he was two faced, nice enough on the surface, but devious, murderous and maniacal on the inside. I am glad he is dead and rotting in Hell for what he did to Lyric. I think about Lyric nearly every day and would gladly have killed Ambrosino myself if I had only known what the future held for Lyric. Strong words but this is exactly how I feel.

  • brad

    No, Ambrosino was definitely a scumbag of the lowest sort, he was two faced, nice enough on the surface, but devious, murderous and maniacal on the inside. I am glad he is dead and rotting in Hell for what he did to Lyric. I think about Lyric nearly every day and would gladly have killed Ambrosino myself if I had only known what the future held for Lyric. Strong words but this is exactly how I feel.

  • brad

    No, Ambrosino was definitely a scumbag of the lowest sort, he was two faced, nice enough on the surface, but devious, murderous and maniacal on the inside. I am glad he is dead and rotting in Hell for what he did to Lyric. I think about Lyric nearly every day and would gladly have killed Ambrosino myself if I had only known what the future held for Lyric. Strong words but this is exactly how I feel.

  • Granshaa

    there's a lot of hurt, a lot of people hurting still to this day. on both sides of the incident.Bobby was the only person who had a chioce in this horror. he had all of the power in the world and made the wrong one. we did'nt know bobby, some of us did'nt know lyric, the anger is based on the fact that he made that chioce. he snuffed her off of the planet. nice guy or not this pisses people off. we are not judging as such, we are just reacting. i wish he had a better support system in his life, i wish he was able to talk to some people who could have helped him deal with the break up. i wish he did'nt piont a gun in the face of a woman he claimed to love. i wish this never happened and they both were alive..WAAYY apart, but alive.

  • JMAN

    How dare you convict this man to hell and judge his motives. It is only one being that can do the final judging and that is no one that posts on this site. I knew Robert Ambrosino well and it was others jealousy for his good looks and suave nature that drove other less amicable people in New Haven to dislike him. Robert Ambrosino was a veteran of this great country and served his country well. I didnt see the SF soldiers who killed their wives get nearly this much attention. The media and society should be ashamed at themselves for what they did to this man post-humously the only ones they hurt was the family. No one truly knows what job Bobby was doing the past 7 or 8 years but he had a high charcter and was brought up with very high morals. He despised drugs and had the tests to prove he did not do them himself. Please keep in mind the hurt and anguish you do to the family every time you degrade their son.

  • Anonymous

    What is wrong with people who imply that we shouldn't draw conclusions because "we don't really know what happened?" Lyric was murdered by Bobby Ambrosino. There is absolutely no excuse for that man. He shot her in the back of the head, unprovoked. There was no struggle, no self-defense on his part. If he was going to kill himself, so be it. He was a lousy human being and is hopefully rotting in hell for taking Lyric with him.

  • km

    Ms. Benson was my sixth grade teacher in KS (a true blessing as a teacher). I met Lyric when she was only four at a slumber party that Ms. Benson had for all of the girls in our sixth grade class. I was shocked to read about Lyric's death...what a terrible tragedy. My deepest sympathies to her mom and family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. km

  • Marc

    I'm a high school journalist in California and this story has truly taught me about the effects of violence. It was a true tragedy how someone such as Lyric could have passed away so fast and unexpectedly. Currently, I am writing an article about teen violence and its effects...this story will impact the whole high school. Nevertheless, if it was in Ms. Lyric Benson's position to pass away to give the world a reality check about violence, it shouldn't have been in her position to do what she did. I'll always remember her, even though I didn't know her. God bless you, Lyric...

  • Yostina

    Breaking up is so hard to do but if it happens it happens.

  • anonymous

    If you would like to donate money to the organization in honor and memory of Lyric Benson send them to :

    Lyric Gift Fund.

    New York Organ Donor

    Network

    475 Riverside Drive,

    Suite 1244, NY,

    NY 10115

    She will be forever remembered.

    Rest in Peace.

  • anonymous

    Lyric went to Africa in Morocco and studied at the Casablanca American School and she was very talented in arts and acting. She will be rembered forever

  • Joe Tad

    I knew Lyric through a close friend of mine. Though I didn't know her all that well, I could tell that she was an amazing person who often stole the attention of the entire room without even trying. Had I never met her, I still would have known what a beautiful person she was from the impact that her friendship had on my friend (they were practically best friends).

    One of my few, but fond, memories of her was when she kept everybody laughing hysterically during a Super Bowl Party two years ago. She was trying to understand the game, but she didn't know when something good happened or even when to cheer at the right times. I wish I had many more memories to share.

    My thoughts and prayers go out to her family and friends. May they find comfort in the thought that this tragic event happened when she was most prepared to enter God's Kingdom. He is taking care of her now.

  • John McNamara

    hey - I knew Lyric from Morocco, she was three years older than me, and used to babysit me and my little sis and brother. I live in New York now. Does anyone know how I could get in contact with her mom, who was my fifth grade teacher (and one of my greatest teachers, besides) to express my condolences? Lyric was amazing. I'll only meet a few people as beautiful, smart, and talented in my whole life. And I'd say that no matter WHAT she was in the news for. This is simply unreal. Also, anyone from Morocco, '92-'95 3rd-5th grade, e-mail me. What are your thoughts? Where are you? jcmack13@hotmail.com

  • it

    I am speechless I knew then both from being out in new haven and never could have imagined this happening. selfishness of bobby to take her down with him- did he go crazy? how can someone harm let alone kill a person they love? I think he was an addict, to drugs alcohol and relationship, how selfish this is to be addicted.. he end up going nuts - taking his feelings of insecurity to the extreme and selfish motives enough to take someones life or even his own life- he had no right to take his life either. all I can say is god is good and loves us all let god in, and give love away its meant to be given away freely expecting nothing in return, without god all a person has is ego and the ego is evil. How many people do you know that are genuine? real and open about who they are and what they feel.. are they out for themselves or do they care for others? this is things i will look at more closely than I did before from this happening, and realise that behind every fake smile there could be a person in serious pain-

  • Jolie A. Vaval

    It's unfortunate that both families have been devastated by this tragedy. What's worse, is that none of their friends or family saw it coming. I believe that there had to be some signs; people don't just flip out like that. When people fall in love, they tend to overlook aspects of personality that can be problematic. It's really unfortunate because, from everything I read in the papers, Lyric Benson was a gem to her friends and family. He's a coward for not taking the right steps to deal with his feelings of rejection. Why is it a problem when a woman decides she wants to leave a relationship, but men feel that they can just get up and go whenever they feel like it? The answer is EGO. If he wanted to be with someone else, he would have just left her without a second thought about her feelings. What's wrong with that picture?

  • jake

    there's a reason he was known as "fast bobby". he was a shady, sneaky character with a questionable past (to put it kindly). and whatever "the truth" was...she didn't deserve to die. if he had any honor at all he would have just blown his own brains out and done society a favor, while sparing the poor girl he supposedly loved.

  • jennifer

    May i recommend a book entitled The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker? It's a great book for women in particular, and its goal is to teach us how terrible stories like Lyric's and Robert's can often be avoided.

    We don't have to live in fear. We don't have to never leave the house again. We just have to know how to recognize danger.

  • j.s

    bob ambrosino was and still is a close friend to many many people..Its very difficult to hear the media call him a beast.No one knows the truth of what happened..My thoughts and prayers go out to both sides of the families....They both will be missed terribly...there will never be any closure to this..

  • KK

    Lyric's grandparents are good friends of my parents on the coast of NC, and I knew Lyric and her mother through them. The sadness of this news is numbing.

  • Anonymous

    Lyric became my friend in 7th grade. I was a grade older but two years in age older than she. What an amazing spirit. She was electric. We had so much fun together. I remember making campaign signs for our junior high stuco. I remember having her over to spend the night, walk to a convenience store to get slurpees and funyons and then having her go home sick from all the junk food.

    She had more talent and touched more lives than I could ever hope to in a lifetime. She has made a legacy at such a young age and those of us who remember her will carry on her spirit. She will be forever missed.

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